For straight women finding the wedding dress is perhaps one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding. Traditionally women will go wedding dress shopping with your mum, sister, bridesmaid to be or best friend. They will try on hundreds of dresses of all different shapes, sizes and styles.

For lesbians, shopping for your wedding outfit can be a daunting task. Thankfully with lesbian weddings anything goes. Lesbians do not have to wear meringue dresses but many do choose to do so. Lesbian wedding wear can consist of complimentary outfits, matching outfits, individual style including butch and femme. This is your wedding, you set the tone – your outfit should represent who you are and most importantly you should be comfortable in your outfit and not surrender to stereotypical values of what a wedding outfit should look like.

Jewellery & Accessories

The jewellery you wear is a very important part of your look on the day and you may wish to invest in a special piece of jewellery or accessory for your big day. You can find collections of jewellery that will compliment both you as a person and the outfit that you choose to wear on your big day.

Whether you choose an elegant pair of earrings, a glittering necklace or a beautiful watch you can find jewellery that will look graceful and gorgeous and accentuates your wedding outfit.

With bridal jewellery the general rule is keep it simple – less is more. Your wedding outfit should always be the starting point and if your outfit sparkles with diamonds and crystals then choose a piece of jewellery with matching elements.

If you are wearing your hair up you may want to choose drop earrings, for short hair you can’t go far wrong with studs.

If you decide you want to wear a headpiece there are some beautiful understated headpieces with simple classic designs that will make an elegant finishing piece to your outfit.

Health & Beauty

Of course you want to look your absolute best on your wedding day so you must consider factors such as hair, make-up and well-being.
It is popular for both men and women to now treat themselves to facials, massage, aromatherapy, manicures, pedicures, cosmetic treatment, waxing and pampering. This is all before the big day! Then there comes the hair and make-up…

Hairdressers and beauticians are readily available to be hired to work for you on your special day either in a salon or at your wedding destination. So if you decide to treat yourself to some professional help you should be sure to base your choice on recommendation. We would advise you meet with your beautician and/or hairdresser prior to your event to discuss and try some different styles so that you feel comfortable on the day and can plan any hair accessories for your wedding outfit well in advance.

If you go it alone ensure any beauty or tanning treatments you try have been tested on your skin well before your big day as you don’t want to turn up with skin irritations or streaky tan marks for all to see!

Skin Care

For men and women it’s not just looking good but feeling good that is important on your wedding day especially when you will be having photography taken all day and night long.

If you are using a make-up artist he or she will advise you on how to best prepare your skin for your big day to make sure it’s glowing and fresh. A great tip leading up to your wedding is try to cleanse your skin as much as possible at least three months prior to the big day.

You can do this by drinking plenty of water, exercising and using recommended skin care products to tone and moisturize.

You can really treat yourself in the build up to your big day so consider visiting beauticians for a waxing of whatever parts could do with tidying up or why not enjoy a full body massage or a Reiki session to relax you.

Teeth Whitening is becoming really popular and you can get treatments relatively cheaply now. This is a great idea if your teeth are not in the best of condition as it can be a great short term fix and will do so much for your wedding photo’s.

Botox is not just for Hollywood. If you are concerned that unwanted wrinkles will spoil your wedding photo’s then why not have a consultation with a specialist to see what they can do for you.

Make Up

If you are not someone who usually wears make-up it may be worth considering a trail run before your wedding day- perhaps when you go for your outfit fitting as a little bit of make-up can go a long way and can really accentuate your wedding photo’s. Subtle is good – you don’t have to shovel the make-up on. If you are using a make-up artist tell him or her that you don’t usually wear make –up so to go easy with you. Make-up artists are fantastic at lots of different looks and if you tell them what you are wearing, what your hair style will be and any accessories you are wearing they will apply your make-up to compliment your style.

If you are wearing mascara on the day be sure to choose a water proof product as no matter how hard you try to hide your emotions there may well be tears.

Hair

Quite what to do with your hair on a daily basis can be enough of a chore but selecting a style on your wedding day can be a real headache.

Long hair can be worn in many ways including shapely soft curls, tied back, tied to the side, half up half down or sweeping over the shoulder curls. The most classic style is perhaps the high air fairytale bride style which is sleek at the sides and is perfect for showing off a tiara. You can glam up short hair with a tiara or subtly places diamonds or flowers.

If you are going for a completely new style then have a trial run well before your wedding day to ensure there are not disasters on your big day.

Mrs & Mrs Fashion

For straight women finding the wedding dress is perhaps one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding. Traditionally women will go wedding dress shopping with your mum, sister, bridesmaid to be or best friend. They will try on hundreds of dresses of all different shapes, sizes and styles.

For lesbians, shopping for your wedding outfit can be a daunting task. Thankfully with lesbian weddings anything goes. Lesbians do not have to wear meringue dresses but many do choose to do so. Lesbian wedding wear can consist of complimentary outfits, matching outfits, individual style including butch and femme. This is your wedding, you set the tone – your outfit should represent who you are and most importantly you should be comfortable in your outfit and not surrender to stereotypical values of what a wedding outfit should look like.

We have lots of ideas for wedding fashion inspiration right here. With gay marriage choosing your wedding outfit is not always so simple especially for lesbian couples. Traditionally in heterosexual marriage the bride will wear a dress and the groom a suit; same sex marriage is not so straight forward. Our advice is to be true to yourself -your wedding day is not about pleasing others but being comfortable with who you are and that can be reflected in what you wear.

If you are not someone who feels comfortable in a dress then there are many other options to choose from. Of course complimenting your partners outfit is something you must consider so you may wish to embark on a joint shopping trip to try out some varying styles of wedding attire. Wedding specialist outlets have a wealth of fashion options for you and your partner to consider as well as their knowledge on what looks good. High street stores now also have some beautiful ranges of wedding wear.

If you are not someone who feels comfortable in a dress then there are many other options to choose from. Of course complimenting your partners outfit is something you must consider so you may wish to embark on a joint shopping trip to try out some varying styles of wedding attire. Wedding specialist outlets have a wealth of fashion options for you and your partner to consider as well as their knowledge on what looks good. High street stores now also have some beautiful ranges of wedding wear.

For lesbians, shopping for your wedding outfit can be a daunting task. Thankfully with lesbian weddings anything goes. Lesbians do not have to wear meringue dresses but many do choose to do so. Lesbian wedding wear can consist of complimentary outfits, matching outfits, individual style including butch and femme. This is your wedding, you set the tone – your outfit should represent who you are and most importantly you should be comfortable in your outfit and not surrender to stereotypical values of what a wedding outfit should look like.

Lingerie

For a lesbian wedding lingerie has got to be factored in when deciding what to wear under your bridal outfits for your wedding night and honeymoon. Your wedding night is the perfect excuse to splash out on something that will wow your new bride. You can choose anything from a Basque or corset to stockings and suspenders. This is also the one time in your life you should do what you have been meaning to do for years and get yourself measured for your perfect bra size! Purchasing a bra of the right size can help you smooth your curvy silhouette or enhance your bust. Wearing a well fitted bra will help you feel secure on your wedding day and look and feel sexy on your wedding night.

What lingerie should I wear at my lesbian wedding?
Your body shape and your wedding outfit will determine what kind of lingerie you should wear. If you are wearing a strapless top or dress you will need to purchase a strapless bra, corset or Basque. If you are big busted you can create an hourglass figure by wearing an outfit with straps or sleeves, a corset style Victorian bodice allowing you to wear a strapped bra or corset. Plain or silky lingerie are best worn under slim fitting fabrics.

If your wedding outfit has an unusual neckline or low back you are best choosing an adhesive bra that works by sticking the cups directly to your breasts. Be sure to practise before the big day to check they stay in place!

Stockings and suspenders can give you as classic and sexy look but be sure to try them out before your big day as hold ups can be great on slim legs but don’t work too well if you have heavy thighs.

Why not treat your lesbian partner to a gift of lingerie before the wedding or even on your honeymoon. Make sure you know her size and what style she may like and present the gift in a wrapped ribbon tied box and she will love you forever.

Magic Knickers
For those of us who wish to hide our curves you can choose shape-wear lingerie which will hold in your tummy waist or thighs to create a slimmer figure.

Lesbian Wedding Shoes

Us lesbians are not renowned for our love of shoe shopping but shoes on your wedding day are an important accessory. They need to be both comfortable, able to match your outfit and have the ability to let you walk in them! The sooner you can embark on that dreaded shoe shopping trip the better. Once you have purchased your wedding shoes try to wear them at home to break them in which means they will be more comfortable on the day.

If you are just not comfortable with a type of shoe you don’t normally wear then our advice is ditch them and go with what’s comfortable for you. A lesbian wedding does not have to mean six inch stilettos – if you want to wear flats then so be it.

Something old, something new…..true for lesbians too!
Tradition states that the brides should have “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue”. If you manage to bring all these things together it will apparently bring mystical influences into your possession. Something blue symbolises purity so have a think before your big day to stop you scrambling round at the last minute.

Handbags

Handbags have not traditionally been an essential for lesbians but on your big day you may need a smart accessory to store make-up or tissues or perhaps a special surprise gift for your wife to be. The style of bag you choose depends on your outfit but choose a simple bag and you can’t go far wrong.

Veils

You will be surprised how popular full wedding gowns topped off with a veil are at lesbian weddings. If you have decided you are going to wear a traditional wedding dress to your wedding then choose your veil in line with the style of your dress.

Depending on the length of your veil the best advice we can give is to practise both your walk down the aisle and taking off your veil.

Tiara or Headdress?

If you are thinking about wearing a headdress or tiara start with your hairdresser and get some advice about what may go with your style of hair on the big day. You can also get lots of good ideas by checking out some designs on the high street.

If you are going to use flowers in your headdress order them early and think about the theme for your wedding and if the flowers link in with that theme. Remember to dress the back of your head as well as the front as most of your guests will spend the ceremony looking at your back.

Bridesmaid Fashion

Before deciding on your bridesmaids outfits you need to ensure that you have chosen your outfit so that the colour and style can be coordinated with the colouring of your bridesmaid’s outfits.

Consider the ages of your bridesmaids as adults may not necessarily want to be dressed in the same outfit as a child and outfits the brides choose should try to be as flattering as possible to people’s ages and sizes.

It is acceptable to choose a favourite colour that expresses both brides personalities. The material you choose can determine a figure hugging outfit or something that will accentuate body parts your bridesmaids may not flatter.

Best Woman Fashion

If you are having a Best Woman then she may want to select an outfit to compliment both brides’ outfits ensuring you don’t clash or indeed look too similar on the day. Again anything goes from a traditional tuxedo or three-piece suit to a dress.

Gay Wedding Fashion – Matter to Consider

The season
Consider the time of year you are getting married as this may affect the type of fabric you choose if your wedding is in summer or winter.

Your venue
Where will your wedding be held? If you are thinking about a beach wedding abroad your outfits may be more relaxed then if you are getting married in a very formal venue.

Your figure
No matter what your shape or size is, there will be a wedding outfit out there that is perfect for you. Think about what you feel comfortable in and what style suits you best.

Your hair & skin colour
If you have a very pale complexion pure white may not be a good colour on you so think about what colours suit your skin and hair colour. If you are wearing complimentary outfits to each other and you have different skin and hair colours think about who should wear which outfit.

Time to get Changed on your Big Day

If you are wearing a wedding dress you may well need help on the big day to get ready. If your partner is banned from seeing you until the ceremony then ask your bridesmaids or friends/family to help as anything from getting the dress on to going to the loo can be a two person job. When it’s time for the dress to come off again at the end of the night your new wife should be only too pleased to help!

Shopping for the Perfect Lesbian Wedding Outfit

According to our survey 92% of lesbians chose to shop together for their wedding outfits. After all your wife to be knows your taste, you trust their opinion and they will be honest enough to tell you if something doesn’t look so good.

Most wedding stores require an appointment to try on a dress as it can take a long time and needs a lot of attention of staff. So, if you are planning to visit more than one wedding shop then think about the timings for your appointments.

Take a camera phone with you so that you can take photo’s of the outfits when you have them on as you will probably try on that many and forget which ones you like and where you saw it.

Any lesbian wedding wear specialist you see advertised on this site have been recommend by lesbians as having friendly staff, a good choice of wedding outfits for lesbians and making each person feel special. You can share your feedback with us by emailing us or share your experience through our blogs section.

Should I consider buying a second hand wedding outfit?
Purchasing second hand wedding outfits is becoming more and more common. Some people just don’t like the idea of splashing out hundreds or thousands of pounds/dollars on an outfit you will wear for one day and others in this current climate are just on a tight budget.

Buying an outfit second hand will cost anything from $20 to $1000 depending on whether it is designer or from an outlet. You may have costs on top of that from delivery charges to dry cleaning.

Many brides sell their items on auction websites such as eBay but our blogs section contains links to specific lesbian wedding outfits for sale so if you are looking for something other than a wedding dress check it out.

How to decide on what you will wear?

For heterosexual women the choice is relatively simple – it’s a case of what style and colour of dress shall I wear? For lesbians, deciding on your wedding outfit is a lot more complex. For a start not every lesbian will want to wear a big white wedding dress so the options are: dress (non meringue), trouser suit or skirt suit or something completely different like a theme or fancy dress. Then you have to decide will you both be matching, complimentary, femme, butch etc…

Most lesbians have strong individual styles so stick to what you are comfortable with – it’s your day and nobody else’s.

If you are not someone who feels comfortable in a dress then there are many other options to choose from. Of course complimenting your partners outfit is something you must consider so you may wish to embark on a joint shopping trip to try out some varying styles of wedding attire. Wedding specialist outlets have a wealth of fashion options for you and your partner to consider as well as their knowledge on what looks good. High street stores now also have some beautiful ranges of wedding wear.

For lesbians, shopping for your wedding outfit can be a daunting task. Thankfully with lesbian weddings anything goes. Lesbians do not have to wear meringue dresses but many do choose to do so. Lesbian wedding wear can consist of complimentary outfits, matching outfits, individual style including butch and femme. This is your wedding, you set the tone – your outfit should represent who you are and most importantly you should be comfortable in your outfit and not surrender to stereotypical values of what a wedding outfit should look like.

Lesbian Wedding Rings

The wedding ring is a pubic symbol of your love and commitment to each other. Choosing the right wedding ring for you both can be a difficult task so don’t leave the shopping too late. Your style of wedding ring should reflect your personality and if you wear an engagement ring it should complement the style of the engagement ring. Wedding rings come in all different shapes sizes and metals. Most wedding rings are bands to symbolise a never ending circle of love however it is more and more common these days for a wedding band to include diamonds in the design. Lesbian wedding rings can be different, matching or complimentary. You can buy ready made rings or you have your own rings specially designed and in scripted for your perfect wedding day.